by wpengine | Jan 3, 2014 | Healing, Spirituality
Your body is an instrument of love and desire. Of passion.
Your sexuality is what makes you most feminine, most woman.
Becoming a whole woman is to discover and own your temptress and seductress, your skilled lover, even your sacred prostitute. Your love goddess…are you Aphrodite or Venus, Rati or Kali?
Becoming a whole woman is discovering and playing with the full range of your sexuality.
Find your unique sexuality
Your way is your way. Different from any other woman’s.
You may be comfortable in your naked skin or prefer to cover up. You may thoroughly enjoy your body and sex. Or feel fear, pain, or numbness. You may relish flirting, foreplay, and sexual intimacy. Or you may have a mix of feelings, both enjoying and struggling with it.
Sexuality is incredible. Yet it can also be incredibly complex.
You inherit so many judgments and prejudices that your original sexual innocence is often lost. And abuse, assault, commercialization, and religion stifle free flowing sexuality, casting a net over its wild and free and open nature.
Women’s sexuality has been oppressed and often under assault for centuries. And still is. You may need to work to become a whole woman and return to original playful innocence.
Here are some ways to do that.
12 ways to adorn yourself sexually
1. Presence
Your presence is, perhaps, the most important aspect of your sexuality—it’s an aphrodisiac. How present are you to your sensations and emotions, to yourself and your partner? The more in the moment and present you are, the more you experience your sexuality’s heat, light, and love.
2. Desire
Attune to and enter the experience 
of desiring and being desired as much as you are able. Flow with the river as far as you can go. If you’re in a long-term relationship where the fire of newness ebbs, learn how to continue desiring your partner—essential to keeping intimacy fresh and alive.
3. Take responsibility for your sexuality and passion
Know your turn-ons and turn-offs, safety and edges, pleasure and boredom, whether self-pleasuring or with a partner. Be open to change and evolve as the tides of your life and partners shift.
4. Become intimate with your own unique eroticism
Know your needs and edges. What do you need to feel safe and move through the different stages of lovemaking. What pleasures and satisfies you? And what are your edges? Your erotic growth and capacity is often around your edges—work them. And if you can, with your partner.
5. Become a sex goddess
Develop your skill and subtlety just as you would any art or science. Inform yourself. Give yourself a travel guide to the world of sex, whether it’s about techniques, the Kama Sutra, erogenous zones, or the range of sexual possibilities that intrigue you. Explore sacred sexuality. Take a workshop.
6. Conscious breath
Your breath is a portal to your senses and sensuality. It carries you into your experience. Discover and experiment with it. When intense feelings and sensations arise, learn to use your breath to ride their waves as well as to surf you more into pleasure.
7. Cultivate pleasure
You have vast capacities for pleasure. For ecstasy and bliss. Your body, as an instrument, can play and be played in an endless variety of ways. Enjoy your practice!
8. Seek out professional help if you’ve been sexually abused
Get therapy. Find a sexual healer. It’s easy to minimize abuse since so much secrecy, shame, and guilt often accompany it. It’s critical that you not be alone with this but get help.
You’re not alone. 1 out of every 6 American women, and 1 in 4 internationally, have been victims of abuse. Almost half the women who enter therapy want to work on their sexuality.
9. Work through your emotional triggers and constrictions
Perhaps you’ve inherited guilt about pleasure. Or have emotional ties to a parent which you need to cut. Or inherited ideas from your family, culture, or religion about how a woman needs to behave or be sexually. What’s true for you beyond what you’ve been handed down? Get beyond ideas and ideology into the warm experience and wisdom of your body. Again, get help for these often bury deeply in your psyche.
10. Communicate and attune
If you’re with a partner(s), express what you appreciate, want more of, or how to be touched differently. Likewise, encourage and welcome feedback from your partner(s). How attuned and connected are you with your partner?
11. Expand your sexuality to your other chakras
Choose whether you want to include 
more levels to your sexuality, such as ground, power, heart, expression and play, intuition, and Spirit. How much can you open to feeling on all levels? The more aligned with other chakras, the richer and fuller is your experience.
12. Dance with the masculine and feminine
Explore these powerful polarities, and play with receiving and asserting, with giving and taking. You have both energies in you and can dance fluidly between and with them.
In what other ways do you adorn yourself sexually? I’d love to hear more about it here.
[ Click here for the Introduction, Body, Power, Love, and Voice + Creativity posts of this 8-part blog series. ]
by wpengine | Dec 21, 2013 | Healing, Spirituality, Women
Do you love your body? Or hate it?
Do you feel beautiful? Or are you your worst critic?
Is your body a battleground? Or your home?
So many women war with their bodies. Hate their bodies. Shame their bodies. And are afraid to inhabit it. So many struggle with dissociation, addiction, eating disorders, and sexual inhibitions, abuse, and dysfunctions.
Your emotional life reveals itself in your body. Maybe you have to drink to have sex. Or eat a side salad when you’re out with your girlfriends then come home to gorge on ice-cream. Or dissociate when you’re intimate. Maybe you don’t let your partner see you naked. Maybe you don’t like to see yourself naked.
The previous post talked about seven adornments to become a whole woman. In this post, see if you find something to become more whole in your body.
The four horsemen
There are four structures that keep your body from being whole.
Most religions have damaged women’s self-image and body-image. They split the sacred from the earthly, so condemn Nature and women’s bodies—houses of the soul—to eternal sin. Is a leopard prowling on an African prairie sinful? How can an animal’s body desires be natural and beautiful but not those of a woman?
Patriarchy also splits by perceiving women and the feminine to be inferior, less than, and less valuable than men. How did someone decide that? How did women’s power get stripped away? In every culture, women are subjugated and wounded physically and emotionally.
Media’s commercialization of women defines beauty as external, youthful, and asks you to measure up to an outer image—to the one that sells. In a world with thousands of species of flowers, is there only one feminine model of beauty—that of models on magazine covers?
Each of these three—religion, patriarchy, and media—serve someone else, not you as a woman!
Finally, your own beliefs, self-limitations, and internalizations are your worst handicaps. Are these blinding messages true for you today or can you embody your own authentic ones? For you can shift the trapped past for yourself, and in so doing, transform the circle of women.
Your body sacred
Your body is a work of art.
It is sacred, as your soul’s house and temple.
In Tantra, India’s feminine spirituality, the Earth, the trees and rivers, animals and plants are all sacred. So too, is your body.
Your body lives, pulsates, and breathes. Your life-force, Shakti, is sacred. So too, are you and your body.
As a woman, you are the Goddess. You have, create, and nourish life. Every part of your body—from your arms to your belly to your thighs, your yoni to your breasts, your third eye to your toes—is sacred.
In one beautiful Tantric ritual, a woman reveres her body by touching its fifty sacred sites while chanting a mantra to each one.
Your body whole
A whole woman is at peace 
with her body. She takes care of, nourishes, and adorns it. She finds it beautiful and cherishes it. She enjoys and plays in it. She accepts it for what it is. As she ages, she seeks its endless mystery and change. She discovers and opens into increasing portals of sensation, pleasure, and beauty within her.
A whole woman feels beautiful outside and inside.
It is the time of the Divine Feminine, in which you are being called to embody the fullness of your femininity and womanhood.
♥ Will you question primitive and tribal beliefs that keep you small, in fear, shame, or guilt?
♥ Will you unify and integrate what is split and divided in you to become whole?
♥ Will you emerge into your full radiance, power, and heart?
How to become whole
To be whole in your body, you must first know how you feel about it, towards it. Are you warring against it or are you one with it? You need to heal—to bring peace to your body and nervous system. You need to reclaim and give life to what is repressed.
Second, you must discover and know your body. Feel it. Enter into it. And travel its sensory roadways as far as you can go.
1. Heal and reclaim your body
- Be aware of your internalized messages. What were you told by your mother, your grandmother, your culture? Are these messages true for you or do you want to create new truths of your own?
- Heal your battles against your body. Whether repression, shame, trauma, religious or cultural beliefs, rout out what’s false, ease what you struggle with, and reconnect with your body’s truth, beauty, and wisdom.
- Listen to your body. What is it saying and yearning for?
- Learn to appreciate, care for, and love your body. Substitute negative self-talk with positive self-care, appreciation, and enjoyment.
- Tune into and connect with your life force. What makes your body come alive? Is it yoga, sunning yourself on your deck, or dance? Give your body more of what it loves.
- Cultivate your sensory awareness. Feel into and inside your sensations, instincts, and drives. Your five senses are incredibly powerful and subtle.
- Do your inner work. It takes effort to free yourself from the web of your past but is so worth it. Try therapy, body work, dance, or sand play to shift a scrappy legacy into a living legend.
2. Fully embody your body
You have vast capacities for pleasure, bliss, and ecstasy—for much more than you currently experience.
- Listen to, discover, and trust your instincts and drives. This is your body’s truth and wisdom. Follow it. Let it guide you as you navigate your life.
- Open to life energy and vitality. So many women constrict their bodies and don’t allow the full play and stream of Shakti, the life force. This causes stress and disease. When you open and allow life energy to flow, like when you breathe deeply, exercise, and eat nourishing food, you increase your capacity and creativity.
- Open more to your senses and pleasure. You’ll be surprised how much pleasure you can feel and how much more there is to feel. Pleasure is good for you—for your health, vibration, and aliveness. Your five senses—sight, heaing, touch, taste, and smell—are portals for ecstasy, light, and information.
- Evolve your sensory awareness. Know your body. Feel it. Enter into it. And travel its sensory roadways as far as you can go. This doesn’t need to be sexual—you can sit by a lake or a flower or on a sidewalk in New York and experience what Wilhelm Reich called orgone energy and Tantra calls cosmic sensuality.
In what other ways do you become more whole in your body? I’d love for you to share them here.
[ Click here for the Introduction, Sexuality, Power, Love, and Voice + Creativity posts of this 8-part blog series. ]
[Images: Christian Schloe; Alex Bramwell]
by wpengine | Dec 7, 2013 | Divine Feminine, Healing, Spirituality, Women
How can you become a whole woman? The whole you. The beautiful you. The sexy you. The sacred you.
You know how to adorn your body—you do it every day. You decorate your body with your favorite clothes, earrings and rings, fragrances, textures, and colors. You dress, slum, wear makeup or not depending on your mood, whether you’re at a meeting, having a bad hair day, working out, doing laundry, or out on the town.
You know how to adorn your outside. You may do it to look and feel attractive, appealing, and sexy. To attract others. Which is fabulous.
But there’s more to being beautiful, radiant, and sensual. A truly beautiful woman is just as beautiful on the inside.
Becoming whole is adorning all of you—body and heart, psyche and soul.
So how do you adorn your femininity? See if you find something that helps you be beautiful from within and become a whole woman in this eight-part blog series.
Shringar, the art of adornment
In India, shringar is women’s art of 
adornment. When a woman does her shringar, she enjoys and celebrates making herself as beautiful as she can be. With sixteen ways to decorate, reveal, and beautify herself from nose ring to bindi, henna to perfume, attire to armband to anklet, shringar is an art for each woman to explore and revel in her femininity, sensuality, and mystery.
Shringar is how a woman adores herself. It’s an act of self-love.
When you adorn yourself as a woman, you adorn Shakti, the Goddess, in you. Just as goddesses in temples are bathed and scented and dressed and garlanded, so too, when you adorn yourself, you sanctify yourself.
You may be trendy or comfort-seeking; wear chunky jewelry or delicate sparkles; be lavish or subtly feminine. Your outer decoration reveals how you feel about yourself, your inner life, and your femininity.
♥ How do you adorn yourself? And with what?
♥ What in you do you adore? And not?
♥ How whole do you feel as a woman?
How do other women do it?
We women are always looking to other women to mirror, reflect, and inspire our femininity.
You check out another woman’s clothes, the cut of her jacket, her shoes. How she walks and holds herself. Her sensuality, her self-esteem. How true is she to herself? Will she support you or does she only look out for herself? Does she abandon herself or is she in her feline power?
You compare yourself. You may be judgmental, even catty.
You look to learn. Is she a model for you?
Maybe you feel less than. Jealous. Neutral. Or inspired.
You always know when a woman plays herself down or lives from her fullest femininity. You know, the radiant, magnificent, compassionate, and powerful women. The ones lit up from within. Women who are completely themselves. And believe in themselves. Unabashedly and unapologetically so.
Your journey as a woman
We’re all on the same collective journey—digging ourselves out from the same old patriarchal hole.
Maybe you think that, as a woman, you’re supposed to be quiet, small, modest, and chaste. Take care of others. Sacrifice or give yourself away. That you’re supposed be the woman your mother or father or culture or spouse want you to be.
Maybe you were raised in a masculine model, where you found power by emulating a man. Self-reliant, competitive, and oh-so-individually tough. So strong that no one can ever hurt you. That to be powerful you have to out-man men.
In your journey to become a whole woman, you sift through family, cultural, and social messages of what it means to be a woman. You sort through your fears and insecurities, your defenses and apprehensions. You get to know your strengths, your vulnerabilities.
Every morning you look in the mirror, creating and uncreating and recreating your womanhood.
There isn’t one way to be a woman. But there’s only one way to be truly uniquely femininely you.
And that’s your way.
It’s a process to become a whole woman
It’s a process to stop seeking approval, 
being the good daughter, and taking care of others. It’s a process to soften a hard masculine way of being, to become tender, soft, and warm. It’s a process to open your broken heart to love again. And another to set boundaries.
It’s a process to own being fully sexual and gorgeous. Fabulous. Creative. Powerful. Wise.
It takes inner work. Therapy. Digging into the deep, dark stuff of who you are.
But you want to be seen. You want to be known. You want to be heard and felt.
You want to find your power. Your voice. Your unique mystery.
You want to desire and be desired. Love and be loved. Utterly.
You want to soar.
Somewhere along your own feminine journey, you discover you can only be yourself. That you can’t kowtow to anyone or make them kowtow to you. That, to be a whole woman is to be completely beautifully powerfully you.
Truly.
It’s then, when you shake your mane and swing your hips, feel passion and power in your belly, your full-throated voice, your loving beating heart, your sexual magnetism, and playful creativity that you know you’re a live woman. A live wire. Fully alive.
In body. Mind. Heart. And Soul.
The seven adornments
Over the next few weeks, this eight-part blog series adorns your femininity not with precious stones, but with the jewels of your chakras.
Pristine and powerful, these seven energy centers are aspects of femininity, which when alive and balanced, integrate to make you a whole woman:
♥ Body
♥ Sexuality
♥ Power
♥ Heart
♥ Voice + Creativity
♥ Intuition
♥ Connection to Spirit and your own Divine Femininity
Stay tuned to travel with me on the chakra caravan to whole womanhood.
And meanwhile, adorn yourself!
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by wpengine | Nov 23, 2013 | Spirituality
The great Indian mystic, Narada, decides to visit God one day. He blithely makes his way through a lush forest strumming his vina and humming His praises.
He comes upon an old yogi with a long white beard sitting under a tree steeped in meditation. The yogi’s eyes flutter open as he senses Narada, and says, “You’re going to see God? O Narada, please ask Him when I’m going to be enlightened. I’ve been working so hard for so many lives, I’d like to know how much farther I have to go.”
Narada answers, “Sure, I’ll ask him.”
And he continues on his way. Then he encounters a young man singing and dancing in a grove of trees. Narada almost walks right by him unseen, then halts to say, “I’m going to see God. Do you have any requests to make of Him?”
But the young man, immersed in his song and dance, is oblivious to Narada, who walks on.
Narada visits with God for a few days, then returns to his home through the forest. He goes to the sage and says, “God says you have three more lives to reach enlightenment.”
The yogi flings down his mala (prayer beads) and scriptures in a rage. “So many? So many lives? I’ve been working incessantly denying myself just about everything. How can I have so many more?”
Narada leaves the infuriated yogi, approaches the young man, and says, “I don’t know if you heard me when I passed you a few days ago, but I asked God about you. I asked Him when you’ll be enlightened. God said you have as many lives as there are leaves on the trees in this grove.”
This time the young man hears Narada. His eyes light up with joy. “Only so many? There are so many trees in this forest and in this world and I’ve already come so far? Oh, blessed that I am!” He sings and dances with even more delight and abandon.
Instantly, the young man attains enlightenment.
Ahhh, gratitude. It’s the breath of life, of receiving. Gratitude, like your in-breath, is inhaling, holding, and relishing all that you have. It’s downright nourishing, like a bowl of hot soup as summer ripens into fall.
Here are seven simple ways to open to gratitude:
1. What are you thankful for?
Take a moment to reflect on who you are, are becoming, and yet to be. All that you have, all that you’ve learned and accomplished this year. Wow!
Or have you been moved by someone’s kindness or love, a stunning sunset, the bread on your table, or this year’s experiences and gifts? There’s always something to be grateful for, however small or humble.
2. Pause for a moment,
take a step back, and look with fresh eyes at the bouquet of fresh flowers, the bowl of steaming soup before you, or your child’s smile. Pause to look at the larger landscape of your life.
3. Receive!
Take in what you’re grateful for. Perhaps it’s a dear friend, your family, a pet, a gorgeous ocean day, or whatever brings a smile to your lips and warmth in your heart.
Receive by seeing and feeling the experience or memory, then draw it deep into your chest and body. Let your cells vibrate to it.
4. Turn negatives into positives
When situations or relationships get challenging, looking at what is there instead of what you wish was there brings you more ease, tolerance, and patience.
One way is to know that a challenge holds a gift for you. Embrace your vulnerability. Turn towards your growth opportunity.
5. Look for the silver lining
No matter how difficult or dire the situation, look for what keeps you moving through it. Perhaps a friend or neighbor’s kindness, a nurse’s smile, your pet’s love, or feeling more compassion for yourself or others.
This does not mean denying or minimizing what you’re going through, but looking at what’s in your half-full glass.
It’s a practice to look for and find the light in challenging situations.
6. Practice heart breath
Your heart, like your lungs, needs inflow and outflow. For emotional wellness, your heart needs to breathe in love, appreciation, care, and connection to yourself, others, and the world. And breathe out the same.
Studies from the Heartmath Institute “repeatedly show appreciation is among the most effective—even to the point of being mentally, physically and behaviorally transforming.”
Practice breathing a few times from your heart, as you inhale what you’re grateful for.
7. Tell it out loud
Share your gratitude in the moment. Tell your lover, your friend, the barista at your favorite cafe. And if the moment passes, express your appreciation later with a note, a phone call, a flower.
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amazing people in my life, their love and friendship, my work, the beautiful San Francisco Bay Area that is home, persimmons, the multitude of nature spirits around my house, and the mystery and magic of our world.
And I am grateful to you for reading this and the opportunity to share with you.
To get you started, what are you grateful for? And in what other ways do you practice gratitude? I’d love for you to share here.
by wpengine | Sep 21, 2013 | Spirituality
Every day is a pilgrimage.
And vacations are exciting ways to unplug, discover, and explore worlds away from home.
But to pack your bag, strap on your sandals, and step out your door on a spiritual pilgrimage is a unique journey.
It’s one of the things I love to do. So much, that as guide, I take people on healing journeys to Abadiania, Brazil, where the extraordinary Entities of Light and Love work through the medium, John of God.
Here are ten things I love about spiritual journeys:
1. You make time for what’s most important — you
You make time and space for yourself, your inner life.
2. You leave your life as you know it
You leave behind your daily routines, work, and world. This opens up the space for you to explore new possibilities and discover new ways of being.
3. You set out to discover something essential
Your quest holds something important and meaningful for you, even if you aren’t entirely sure what it is.
You may even set intentions. When you do, you create a focus for what you want from your journey and engage with possibility and change. You say yes to transformation. You may be intrigued by how your intentions manifest or morph into something different en route.
4. You open to new perspectives
You take the time to reflect on your life with a panoramic lens. Among other things, you contemplate:
- Who you are
- Your relationships, work, and community
- Your health in all ways
- Where you are on your path of life, and where you want to go from here
- Who you want to become
- What you want in your life
5. You come home to yourself
It’s a time to shed the doing of your life and just be. It’s a time to come home to who you are.
6. You sift and shift
It’s a time to sift the wheat from the chaff:
- What’s outlived its usefulness?
- What are you ready to release?
And a time to shift:
- What’s waiting to be born and emerge?
- What are you ready to step into?
Outside and away from your usual routine, you more easily envision your potential. And the possibility of who you can be and what can be.
7. Your presence deepens
In new situations, it’s easier to live in the moment. You’re more present; you’re more playful.
You try things you may not have done before. You may do things differently. You experiment with different ways of being, different roles with yourself and others. You have space in which to imagine, dream, and invite your future.
Like a bud blooms open petal by petal, so moment by moment, day by day, your presence deepens and unfolds its fullness.
8. Synchronicities
Often, what happens a few weeks before you leave indicate some of what your journey may be about. Like tea leaves in a tea cup, the people, events, and patterns that enter, change, or leave your life, tell you of the winds of transformation swirling around you. How you respond is your connection and flow with the magic of the Universe.
9. It’s a time to dive deep
Ah… diving. There’s no worthwhile journey without entering the dark. There’s nothing quite as wonderful, fearful, and refreshing as diving deep into yourself. What will you see and feel? The fearful, the uncomfortable, the ugly, the heartbroken — what will bubble up to be lifted and cleared?
10. You drop into your heart and soul
It’s a time to enter the cave and castle of who you are on your deepest levels. To revisit why you’re here on the planet. To open to love. To open to awe. To open to the magnificence and magic of life, and who you are.
What other gifts do you receive from spiritual journeys? I’d love for you to share them here.
by wpengine | Sep 14, 2013 | Divine Feminine, Spirituality, Women
Change knocks at your door in so many different ways.
Sometimes it’s a gentle nudge, a push, or even a shove.
But when Kali enters your life, she bangs open and blows down your door. And often, it’s after you’ve received several messages to change, which you may have ignored or simply not known how to put into practice.
When she enters your life, your transformation becomes center stage.
Kali
She strides into your life with a tempestuous stomp of her legs, shakes her unruly mass of thick black hair, the smell of smoke and sandalwood wafts from her earthy powerful figure, and deep, rich laughter gurgles up from her dark belly. She is bold, strikingly beautiful, and powerful.
“Come,” she says. “It’s time.”
She won’t let you dilly-dally or hesitate or deny or wheedle. She won’t wait for you to finish a project or wash the last dish or complete a conversation. None of the ploys or defenses or resistance you typically use to stall and procrastinate have any effect before her unyielding gaze.
She won’t take “no” or “just a moment” for an answer. She washes you away from your sweet, safe, secure shore in a wave of her wisely fierce love.
Because it’s your time to transform.
Now.
Who is Kali?
Kali is the Dark Mother who destroys in the service of creation. The third Hindu goddess in the cycle of creation-sustenance-destruction, she destroys what’s served its time, its usefulness, and any cloaked ignorance.
But hers is no senseless or merciless destruction. She severs with her sword of infinite compassion, wisdom, and love.
She is the great awakener of all that is asleep, stagnant, and as yet undeveloped in you.
Black as the night, she is goddess of the dark void, of destruction, the mystery of not knowing, and the slow, quiet search of becoming.
Her faces are many: violent, terrible, maternal, furious, tender, destructive, cruel, and indifferent. And she shows you what you need to see when you need to see it.
Her lolling tongue feeds on life, prana–your life. She must eat what’s alive so you can give birth to who you will next be. She must also taste what you forbid to yourself.
All her destruction is to make space and give life to what’s waiting to transform, come alive, and be born anew in you.
She is transformation
Everything must transform—this is a universal law. We get so accustomed to, identify with, and grasp who we are and what we do. We clutch at life to have it stay the same.
But to be alive, we must change. Otherwise we’re stagnant, diseased, or dead.
It can seem cruel, impersonal, even heartless when your relationship, career, or what matters to you is going so well to have it be torn down or blown away.
But there’s a wisdom to her violence: there’s more to who you are. So much more. And she’s going to help you become that.
She is here to rebirth you.
She breaks structures
Violence is her way. Swift, shocking, and direct, she shatters all structures, outer and inner. She tears down your environment so you question your reality. So that you ask yourself:
- What is really true for me now?
- What is most important?
- What have I not been listening to?
You may find you lose your job, relationships, and often, what you believe and hold as true.
It’s her way of guiding you towards your purer truth.
She mirrors your shadow
Kali calls you to face what’s taboo, repressed, and denied. Regardless of social, familial, or cultural dharma, she makes you look at everything you’ve closeted away. Because what you forbid to yourself is a life you don’t allow.
She forces you to step out of what you know. She forces you to find new ways of being.
She makes you look at what you’re most afraid of. She summons the warrior in you who can stare right back at your deepest, darkest fears.
And so, she frees you from fear itself.
She takes you into your nakedness
She disrobes you of your pretenses, excuses, denials, defenses, illusions—of any and all falseness. Until you’re able to stand alone in your nakedness and know yourself as you fully are.
There, surrounded by her quiet, still darkness, you can finally see and know yourself. There, you find and know all that is true to you and for you.
There, you are naked, true, and real.
She fires up your power
If you’ve been 
disempowered in your life, as so many have been in overt and subtle ways, Kali rouses your warrior. Bold, fearless, fierce, and rippling with righteous rage, Kali barges right through social norms to tell you it’s okay, good—no, absolutely essential—to be powerful.
She draws out your boldness, assertiveness, and rides alongside with you, cheering your power.
Most of all, she gives you permission to be angry, powerful, and rise up against everything that’s kept you down, kept you silent, kept you small, kept you “in your place”, kept you going along with what you haven’t wanted to”… (you can keep going).
For she’s the most powerful of Goddesses. And she wants you to have, stand in, and live from your incredible power.
She awakens you
She awakens you to a new reality. She stretches you to step out of your limited view, perspective, and stance to see the larger whole of who you are and your life.
She awakens you to the polarities of the Divine—life and death, creation and destruction, tenderness and cruelty, pain and pleasure, light and dark. And when you can see and hold them, with all the accompanying shock and awe, then you truly enter into the Divine Dance with her.
She asks you for everything you have
Kali represents the ultimate surrender. She asks you for everything you have—your identity, ego, beliefs, wants, desires.
She asks you to let go of everything you hold dear. Only when you’re ready to destroy and let go of all that you are now, can you open and discover who you are more deeply, more truly.
When you do, you become even more the precious pearl of who you are. You radiate your divinity even brighter. She gathers you into her arms with the most tender maternal love. And you receive more than you can imagine is possible.
In what other ways do you dance with Kali? I’d love for you to share here.
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